At one point in time we get into situations where things don't work in our favour as we would like it. At that time too we realise that we are getting late or we are loosing something we treasure. At this moment the future becomes very bleak and we feel we want to do something immediately to change the situation. But what we should actually do is also not clear to us. Now that is desperation. Sometimes it is about life and death. Other times it is about survival. Whatever the case desperation is the same. But the question is should we be desperate at all?

Being desperate is a choice. Everybody faces challenges in life. But the way we react to these challenges determines the effect that this challenge will have on us. When you panic before a strange dog it will back at you. But if you remain study it sees no threat in you and will not attack. So are many wild animals. Being desperate can lead to negative consequences.

When you are desperate you will fail to analyse the situation properly. This means you draw the wrong conclusions, leading to wrong decisions. Wrong decisions will lead to wrong actions which will in turn generate undesirable consequences. Check this example. Supposing you are on top of a tree and realise that there is a snake up with you. Desperation might make you jump down and you might get hurt in the process. But you could find a way of getting down without being bitten. You could even cut the branch on which the snake is, so the snake falls and not you.

Desperation makes you get less than you deserve. The impaired judgment that comes due to being desperate will make you accept terms that in the end are not in your best interest. Many people have given away valuable properties and investments for paltry sums of money just because at a point in time the desperately needed money. Some people because they desperately needed to marry entered into certain marriages that don't work.

Desperation makes you vulnerable. People will take advantage of you when they realise that you are desperate. One of such cases is the story of Essau in the Bible. He was so desperately hungry that he fails to listen well to the conditions his brother Jacob attached to the bowl of broth he wanted. At the end he wept bitterly for it. He lost his birthright. Jacob who was for a long time (since their birth) looking for an opportunity to take the birthright saw his brother desperate, and caught him in his trap. Don't allow yourself to be trapped like that by being desperate.

有段時間，我們會陷入事情不怎么順利的困境。也就是在那時，我們才意識到為時已晚或者我們正在失去我們珍惜的東西。此刻，未來變得十分灰暗，我們感覺到我們必須立刻做一些事情來改變現(xiàn)狀。但是事實上，我們應(yīng)該做什么也不是很清楚。這就是絕望。有時絕望是關(guān)于生活和死亡。有時是關(guān)于生存。不論是什么情況，絕望都是一樣的。但問題是我們就應(yīng)該這樣絕望下去嗎？

絕望是一種選擇，每個人在生活中的面臨挑戰(zhàn)。但是我們應(yīng)對這些挑戰(zhàn)的方式?jīng)Q定了挑戰(zhàn)對于我們的影響。如果你在一條陌生的狗面前驚慌失措的話，它將會跟著你。但是如果你繼續(xù)學(xué)習(xí)，狗會認(rèn)為你對它沒有威脅，自然不會攻擊你。其他的野生動物也是這樣。絕望會導(dǎo)致負(fù)面的結(jié)果。

當(dāng)你陷入絕望的時候，你就不能正確的分析現(xiàn)狀。這就意味這你會下錯誤的結(jié)論，導(dǎo)致做了錯誤的決定。錯誤的決定會引起錯誤的行為，而這種錯誤的行為又會引起不想看到的后果。例如，假如說你在樹上，看到一條蛇。絕望之中你會跳下去，結(jié)果你可能受傷。但是你可以找到一種既可以下去，又不被蛇咬的方法。你甚至可以砍斷有蛇的那個樹枝，所以掉下去的是蛇，而不是你。

絕望會使你得到的比你應(yīng)得的要少。由于絕望而做出的不妥的判斷會迫使你接受一些你最終不出于你本意的事情。許多人放棄了珍貴的財產(chǎn)和微不足道的投資僅僅是因為在這個時間點急需要錢。有些人由于他們迫切的想要結(jié)婚，而步入了不幸的婚姻。

絕望會使你變得容易受傷。當(dāng)人們意識到你絕望的時候就會利用你。圣經(jīng)中Essau的故事就是這類的情況。Essau非常的餓，他沒有認(rèn)清當(dāng)時的狀況，為了一碗肉湯出賣了自己。最后他為此付出了沉重的代價。他失去了他長子的繼承權(quán)。Jacob,覬覦他長子的權(quán)利很久了，看到他的哥哥很絕望，在他陷入困境的時候抓住了他。不要允許你自己因為絕望而陷入困境。